Proper Ladies and Gentlemen

I once heard Nancy Leigh DeMoss speak about how her dad tried to train up his children to be "Christian ladies and gentlemen."

I love the idea, and I'm sad that it sooo seams to have disappeared.

So, what does it mean to be a Christian lady?

To quote Nancy again, "A woman's greatest loveliness comes through a modest heart."

So how is a a woman pleasing to a man in this way? Well, lets see, how would she be pleasing to the Lord?

In James it talks about learning to control the tongue, and how this teaches us to gain control over everything else :) So ladies, watch your mouths, I think is the easiest translation of that :)

Women adorn yourselves with modest apparell (1st Timothy Ch.2: 9,10
"Not with braided hair and gold or pearls or costly attire, but with what is propper for women who profess Godliness with good works."

What I think is cool about this passage is that it doesn't say that women should not ware a little bling, or braid their hair.
It's just saying

Ladies, don't let your heart motive in your dress to be to get people to notice what you have on rather than noticing Christ within you.
Let your dress help Christ to stand out in you rather than making him disappear under your desire for people to notice what you have on.

Of course, another excellent place to go is Proverbs 31, where it speaks about the excellent Wife.
"Her worth is far above rubies."
"She considers a field and buys it."

Now, this isn't limited to property.

It means she is careful in seeking the quality of things.

Whether that's financially, or emotionally, or even physically, she considers profit, she considers consequences, she considers heart-motive. She contemplates it. She's not hasty or impulsive.
She "considers" where her choices will take her.

She thinks about which "investments" would be the best for her household. She then "buys" whatever will yield the most profit. (or the best results).

In Biblical days, the land was what yielded the crop that gave a family their livelihood.

What do I want my livelihood to be?

What do I want a man to notice about me?

What SHOULD I want a man to notice about me?

What does he WANT to notice about me as a "Christian Gentlemen"?

These are all questions I contemplate, as the desire to be married fuels the fire.

"Lord, help me to yield the best crop possible in my 'field' of decisions. Let my motives be pleasing to you, and someday pleasing to my future husband."
In Jesus's Name... Amen" :)