The Contract: Trust

Do you want to tell me how unemotional you are, because I would've liked you otherwise? I don't know.

Integrity: I won't let my behavior change because someone's status in my life changes.
I don't have the right to think: "You're REALLY close to me now, therefore you have to put up with me messing you around.
If I tell you I will do something, I mean it. I will do everything I can to make it happen, and if something happens that is beyond my control, I'll tell you right away.
This is what I would want...it's only right.
Being a lady or a gentleman: Never willfully, intentionally causing offense to someone else.
This is my promise.
This is something that defines me.

My opinions are strong & outspoken...but there are always other possibilities.
I will listen to them & be respectful.

You are not responsible for my personal happiness.
Just follow through with what you say you will do.
I will not manipulate in order to gain something in the end.
This is not what I would want.
I won't do it to you.

This is not to tell you that I'm selfless. I am not... No one is.
I have needs and I want them met...as do you.
I'd like to think that by letting you be, and meeting your needs,
I'll be happy in the end too.
I will not give myself up for you.
Why would you respect me, if I resented myself?
(But then to tell you that I did this for you, and expect a reward??)
No thank you!
I am who I am. I won't lie to you. So don't do it to me. Fair enough?
But if you do, I promise you, I will not allow it in my life.
This would tell you that your treatment is okay.
I will not make a liar out of myself.


I won't accept you into my life on the basis of you changing yourself.
This does not work.
I will not pick up the crumbs that you have dropped at the table of your life
And then expect you to be grateful to me.
Bologna!
I want the HEAD of the table!...I know it, and so do you...right?
I'll give it over to you...if I'm sure you would die for me...why not?
Otherwise the risk to me is too great.

My greatest wish: Depends on who the person is. But in general, I hope you're thinking of me.
Sure. I like attention and praise, why not?
So why would I make you run from me?
I won't chase you away and then get angry & hysterical when you don't come back.

Gossip, I hate.
What other people think of me is none of my business.
so leave it be.
If I drag you through my drama; it's only for release...catharsis maybe...but gossip is not cool.
I wouldn't want you to do that to me...so I won't do it to you.

"I would never want to belong to a club that would have someone like me for a member."
Woody Allen said that...not me. And I promise you, I never will.
I will love myself, and enjoy my company, so that whether you are around or not...I will stand.
This is trust. It is what I will give. It is what I want back.
Fair enough?

CES (C) 2016.